In order for you to be loved by other people, you must first learn to cherish and respect yourself. Once the individuals surrounding you see that, they would begin to treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Thus, below is Loving Yourself 101:
1.) Always remember that you’re human. You have weaknesses and imperfections so learn to accept that. Acknowledge that fact and stop pretending to be someone that you’re not.
2.) Find the contentment with everything that you have been given. Having a comparison chart between your possessions and that of your neighbor is not healthy at all. It just makes you an ugly green eyed monster.
3.) Pamper yourself. As mentioned above, everything starts within you. Thus, you should be healthy and most importantly, let happiness settle in your life and allow it to radiate for the whole world to see.
4.) See yourself as your very own best friend. If you are able to do anything for your closest buddy, then you must give yourself the same treatment. Again, the key to attracting love is self respect.
5.) What do you have passion for? What are your hobbies and interests? When you have the time, do whatever makes you happy. You owe yourself to live a good life.
6.) Learn to refuse “favors” even for the simplest reason that you don’t want to do it. You can’t be everybody’s savior all the time. Thus, be firm in saying “no” when you have to. It’s you’re right to do so.
7.) Appreciate every small yet good deed that has been done to you by other people. See the kindness in everyone that you get to mingle everyday. Say “thank you”. Let them know that you’re grateful for what they have done.
8.) How do you envision the perfect partner? Can you be one? Do a thorough self assessment for you to determine what it takes to make someone fall in love with you.
9.) Come up with at least 5 strengths that you have. Don’t focus on your physical and mental attributes. If it’s hard for you to come up with the list, then you must improve yourself to become a better person.
10.) Follow your instincts. Be firm on your beliefs. Don’t be anyone’s “puppet” for you have your own mind and a personality that you can call your own.
11.) Be oblivious to other people’s thoughts and just be yourself. Have the courage to do all the things that are about you. This is a free world. As long as you’re not breaking any law or committing any crime, then you absolutely free to be who you are.
12.) Embrace your individuality. It is what makes you unique and one in a billion. Don’t you forget that.
13.) Don’t let your past dictate who you’re going to be in the future. Neither should you let money define you as a person. You must be someone who’s more than that, somebody who has a great sense of dignity.
14.) Shape yourself into the person that you want to be. If you want to have a fruitful career, then work on it. Maintain a positive outlook in life and don’t let adversities bring you down.
15.) Once you have already accepted the way that you are, then you would be more open to positive suggestions and constructive criticism coming from the people around you. Simply change for the better and everything else would soon follow.
16.) Write a diary. It lets you take a look back at your previous experiences and helps you learn from your mistakes. You are bound to fall from time to time but that doesn’t mean that you can’t get up from your failure.
17.) Don’t be too “materialistic”. Money can never buy you genuine love and happiness. Thus, if you want to acquire those things, then you better stop relying on your possessions too much.
18.) Smile brightly and ignore your detractors. Seeing you down would only make them happy so never give them that satisfaction. Always walk with your head high.
19.) Place sticky notes inside your home or even at your workplace containing encouraging statements. Once you see the note, shout the sentence if you can. Do this on a regular basis for you to keep going in life.
20.) Grant yourself forgiveness for your misdoings in the past. It’s not good for you to live a life full of guilt. At some point, you must learn to move on and free yourself from the sadness that you’re feeling.
21.) Once you have done step no. 20, then it’s time for you to start anew. You might get disappointed and sad from time to time but you would have to deal better with your emotions.
22.) If something or someone made you happy, then think about sharing that moment with the whole world. You can write a blog or simply post a short note about it on your social networking account.
23.) Share what you have with those people who need it. This is not mainly referring to charity work. Helping an old man or woman cross the street is already one way of creating a better world
24.) Be the source of great happiness in the lives of others. This can make you feel complete and would make you realize that a partner is someone who’s certainly worth the wait.