Feeling lonely is normal and everyone faces loneliness at some point in their lives. Fortunately, you don’t have to be lonely forever. Below are some helpful ways to conquer your loneliness and live a happier life.
Part One: Understanding Your Loneliness
1) Know that this feeling is normal. Being lonely is a common feeling that people go through from time to time. This is perfectly normal and should not be a cause for concern. Typically the sense of loneliness is felt most during drastic life changes. But don’t worry, this feeling will pass.
2) Distinguish loneliness from solitude. Generally speaking, if you are lonely, you are mostly likely unhappy as well. Solitude on the other hand is voluntary and those in solitude enjoy being alone.
3) Make connections online. The internet is a great place to find support. Many people with similar problems post questions and solutions on forums. These people understand what you’re going through and may be able to help guide you through this time with their personal experiences. Try joining online social communities for on-going support.
Part Two: Overcoming Loneliness
1) Call your friends! Although you may not want to be around people right now, having that connection will help you come out of your shell and be less lonely. Maybe you could invite your colleagues out for drinks, or perhaps you could call up old friends. It really doesn’t matter who you call so long as you are making connections. Just remember to listen more than you speak. This is the best way to have your friends open up to you and for you to make meaningful relationships.
2) Join social groups. One great way to make friends and meet new people is by joining social groups and meeting new people with similar interests. For example, if you’re an avid book reader, you could join a book club. Or if you’re info football, you could join a local league. Check local newspapers and sites like Craigslist for postings. When attending these events, try not to focus on building friendships, rather try to just enjoy yourself. The friendships will come naturally.
3) Approach people. Oftentimes people are lonely because they don’t make the first move. Instead of waiting for people to approach you, you should make the first move. Simply strike up a conversation or invite them out for coffee. Not all connections are meant to be so don’t force it. Relationships take time, but with a little bit of effort they could be very rewarding.
4) See your family more. Regardless of your relationship with them, they know you best. Spend a little more time with them and you’ll surely feel less lonely.
5) Be independent! Many people confuse being lonely with being bored. Go out and treat yourself! There’s nothing wrong with going shopping or golfing by yourself. In fact it can be quite enjoyable. There’s no need to depend on other people to keep you active.
6) Adopt a pet. Saving a pets life can be very rewarding. Not only do they provide endless companionship but cats and dogs can be extremely affectionate and loving. Just remember that adopting a pet is not a decision to be made lightly. You must commit to its well-being and take care of it for the entirety of its life.
7) Be likeable. If you want to attract people and overcome your loneliness, you have to have an enjoyable presence. One sure way of drawing people in is by complimenting them. If your friend has nice hair that day or is wearing shoes you like, tell them! But remember not to go overboard. A simple compliment is enough to break the ice and have people want to be around you more.